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Whether you are entering the priesthood or doing it for personal reasons, remaining celibate can be a difficult thing to do. With these instructions and support from those around you (and perhaps a guide from above), you can lead a celibate life.
Steps
- Make sure this is something you are very serious about. It can be a great thing if you are doing it for the right reasons.
- Find a friend or mentor that has gone through this period in life and ask questions about his or her reason for making their choice.
- Avoid listening to others' feelings about your decision, if they do not agree with yours. It is your choice and yours alone. Instead, talk to friends and people that will not judge you, or this choice you have made.
- Get involved in different hobbies; better not to be around many [people of the attractive gender] for a while if this can be avoided. You could become involved with some spiritual activities.
- Try to find people who you think will understand you and your choices. Tell them you need some moral support.
- Avoid temptation. Do not put yourself in situations that might lead to sexual activity, such as close quarters with someone of the attractive sex.
- It is a fact that after a certain amount of time, and if you do not remind yourself of what you are missing, you will stop feeling strong urges.
- Continue to keep anything about romance or relationships away from your vision. Make a list of all you have wanted to do. You do not have a mate holding you back, so take that trip or write that novel.
- Doing things alone will help you to grow and challenge yourself on why you wanted to be celibate in the first place.
- If religion is a part of your decision to be celibate, read the Bible or other religious book for guidance and strength. Turn to your Priest or religious community in times of weakness and need.
- Celibacy can be practiced within a relationship, if both are in agreement.
- You can then both be each other's strength, and learn something together such as an instrument which will keep the mind busy.
- The joy of learning will help to occupy your mind. It will also tire you out and make you sleep well.
- Celibacy is said to be a great way to improve mental powers and concentration.
Tips
- Stay healthy and fit. Exercise with your partner, friends or alone.
- Exercise takes time and concentration. It makes you feel great afterward.
- Just because you are not dating, does not mean you should not look good.
- Continue to look after yourself with grooming and well matched clothes and you will feel good.
Warnings
- Do not risk any innocent cuddles or hugs, until you have become adapted to celibacy.
- Be confident about who you are, so that your will power can prevail. Your choice will be tested - either by yourself or by another - and you will need to be courageous to resist temptation.
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